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How To: Overcome social anxiety

Learn to take back control if social anxiety is getting in the way of your life. The first step is to take control of conversations at social functions by asking questions. This will help you to direct the conversation more and not feel like you have no control. Next, learn to always have an exit plan for any social function you might attend. Planning an exit strategy beforehand will help you to relax. Finally, be kind and loving to yourself. Don't beat yourself up and take the time to be mor...

How To: Boost your self confidence

Need more self-confidence! Listen up! Tired of not getting a raise, a date or more social invites? Self confidence plays a major impact on our social standing and our job performance. Work on these six suggestions from Daily Idea and you'll be amazed at the increase in how you feel about yourself.

How To: Gain confidence and build your self esteem

Boosting your self esteem can be difficult, especially if you are not a naturally confident person. In this tutorial, get some helpful advice from Quinson Thomas on how to improve your quality of life by upping your self esteem. Self confidence often makes all the difference when we meet new people and try new things. Did you know that just by appearing confident, you can control a whole room? You will look 1000 times more beautiful and successful, even if you don't feel that way inside, if y...

How To: Be more outgoing

Keith Ferrazzi teaches you how to be outgoing. Although it is difficult to talk to people you don`t know, you might miss out on opportunities if you don`t. Only by reaching out to people, you will meet them and they may get to know you enough to perhaps be of help to you in your carreer. You have to learn how to speak up. One way is to pick a role model in your social circle who is outgoing and watch how they behave and listen to what they say. Joining a Toastmasters group is also recommended...

How To: Write an effective letter of complaint

Step1. Make sure you get your facts straight. Note down the dates, names, and numbers, what was said etc while talking over the phone. It is also essential that when you present your letter of complaint that it is chalked full of facts so that when it reaches a decision maker you may get justice properly. Do not write a novel that is 30 pages. Keep it short and write in bullets. Remember that they are interested in facts only.

How To: Have more self confidence

When it comes to confidence you must first understand where you are confident and where you are not confident. The video talks about people asking how to get confidence. If you are asking that question then you must be aware of an area of your life you are not confident. Also there must be areas of your life that you are confident even if it is by yourself making a cup of tea. If you are just being you and not measuring yourself against something or someone else then chances are that you will...

How To: Be less quiet and more talkative

Marie was asked by a viewer how to go about being more orally engaging with other people, as most attention he gets is attributed to the fact that he is very quiet, which doesn't sit well with him. Just like anyone else, he would like to get attention for the things he says, not for being quiet! He is under the impression that "cramming," or being knowledgeable on current events and other trivia will give him more to talk about and thus help him to be more talkative. Marie suggests, though, t...

How To: Keeping a conversation flowing

Marie Dubuque offers tips on keeping a conversation flowing and avoiding awkward silences. She suggests asking the other person about themselves. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, and sometimes if you ask one question they go on and on. Ask about their favorite food, favorite restaurant, how they get along with relatives. Questions about in-laws can lead to some interesting dialog and can get the conversation going better than it was before.

How To: Be more outgoing

Keith Ferrazzi offers suggestions on how to be more outgoing. It can be painful but it’s not as hard as it seems. Talking to people you don’t know can be frightening, but what is even worse is that you miss out on opportunities to meet people. There are ways to learn to speak up.

How To: Swallow pills easier

Ray provides information that hopefully will help you swallow pills easier and quicker. First go to the mirror, open your mouth and say ahhh. Look how big the hole is that allows you to swallow the pill! Put the pill on the back of your tongue as far as you possibly can. Practice with the tongue at this point putting the pill not half way, but all the way to the back. Next, close your mouth. When you close your mouth, your tongue goes back down anyway and the pill goes down your throat. The f...

How To: Win friends & influence people

Gaining friendships and influencing people to live is what life is about. In this summary of Dale Carnegie's work, you will learn exactly how to win people over and share your influence onto anyone. You can get the free ebook PDF of his revolutionary and successful book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" here. It's a great read, and you'll learn how to be successful with the right attitude.

How To: Build confidence on the phone and in voicemails

In this video Patricia Stark shows how to display voice mail confidence. Studies show that it takes only three seconds for somebody to size you up over the phone. You can know a lot about the person speaking on the other end of the phone and so you need to sound very confident while speaking to other persons. It is proved that when you smile when you are speaking on the phone it changes the whole delivery of your tone and if you are sitting there carelessly it will be reflected in your voice....

How To: Use anchoring to gain instant self confidence

Tim Brownson talks about how to tap into self-confidence during this video. This technique is called anchoring. An anchor is an idea or event that links to another event that is usually not related in some way but provides some kind of reminder of an emotion. This can also be called a conditional response. Tim gives a lot of real examples of anchors and conditional responses. First start by calming down as much as possible. Then think of some activity that you are confident you can do, and th...

How To: Look good in pictures with Carson Kressley

Many people suffer from camera-shyness, or a reluctance to have their pictures taken. The reasons vary; some people are generally insecure about their appearance, others feel that their pictures don't match the way they want to be shown. Carson Kressley, from Queer Eye for the Straight Guy and How to Look Good Naked, offers the following advice: relax! Tight smiles, defensive body language, and insincere emotions can easily ruin a picture. Try to be spontaneous: if you want to smile, look at ...

How To: Gain self confidence with Craig Worrell

Craig is sharing about how to gain self confidence. Maybe you are feeling not very confident or you don't have a lot of self confidence. Maybe you would like to do some bigger or bolder things in your business or personal life. You can only get confidence from surviving the attempt. The only true way to get the confidence is by surviving the attempt. You cannot get it from a book or tape You have to make the attempt. You have to go out and do things, try things that you are not comfortable wi...

How To: Build confidence by remembering people's names

This video describes how build your confidence by remembering peoples' name. This Confidence Quickbite explains that a person's name is the sweetest sound to him/her and will make them feel special if you remember it. If you don't remember a person's name he/she may think that he/she is not important enough for you to care enough to remember. To remember names a simple trick is to say the name back to the person in conversation right after he/she tells you it. Then try to think of anybody els...

How To: Lift your spirits with feng shui in your home

Elizabeth Chamberlain with Space Lift demonstrates how to lift your spirits with feng shui in your home. First, find your focus room with your energy map. Lay the energy map on top of your home floor plan and see that the self knowledge area is in the lower left section of your home along the line of your front door. In this case, the self knowledge area is the bedroom closet. There's no hiding in feng shui. You can't throw stuff into a closet and hope that it won't affect you. Clutter clogs ...

How To: Build confidence by sharing your smile

This video is presented by Patricia Stark. The Patricia Stark says "smile and the whole world smiles with you". She goes onto say that smiling breaks the ice and can let people know your intentions. She mentions that body language experts state that people who do not smile are usually not confident and not prepared. The same studies show that people view those who smile as more intelligent. If you want to look confident and knowledgeable in your next presentation, make sure you smile! Patrici...

How To: Build confidence with anti-bacterial wipes

In general, this video is approximately one minute and eight seconds long. The host speaks about personal hygiene by using a small packet of antibacterial wipes. She generalizes the use of this product, which includes hand sanitation, cleanup, and emergency antibacterial use. She specifically speaks about deodorizing the underarms. She relates to the audience about forgetting to use deodorant and how using the antibacterial wipes will help fight bacterial body odor, but clearly states it won'...

How To: Get rich quick with feng shui at home

Feng shui helps to create positive energy at your home. It drives away the negative energy from your home. Eventually the people living in that home will get good thoughts. Thoughts make a person good or bad. Thoughts can make you rich or poor. You can change your life by making some simple changes at your home. This space lift can do wonders for you. In the energy map, wealth area is at the far left hand corner of the house. dry flowers bring negative energy and losses to your home. Therefor...

How To: Build confidence in the bedroom

Patricia Stark has helped to regain confidence in your bedroom she's not telling us how to be a Sex God or to sleep around she’s just helping us be confident about ourselves. She tells us to avoid thoughts about fatigue, looks and complexion about size and figure. People that cheat only do it to make themselves feel better.

How To: Build confidence by untangling a necklace or bracelet

In this video from Patricia Stark of Craving Confidence teaches how to build confidence by untangling a necklace or bracelet. She says that the last thing you need before a big meeting or interview or event when you are on the road is to be untangling a necklace. She recommends saving the tiny Ziploc bad that is used to carry extra buttons for clothes and clothing. Small plastic space seems to keep the jewelry from tangling to itself. You can also use them as small compartments from keeping t...

How To: Stop getting overwhelmed

In this video from RawRadiantHealth Natasha talks to us about getting back to basics and not getting overwhelmed. A lot of times we can feel like we have too many responsibilities and we can get burnt out. Having a strong foundation and basics like getting enough sleep, eating your meals, your home is clean, you're taking care of yourself can really help you. When the foundation is a bit shaky these things can overwhelm us. If the basics are not taken care of the rest of your life can be a me...

How To: Stop procrastination by dealing with the facts

glemo teaches you how to stop procrastination. This is like termites eating at the foundation of a house. It eats you up inside and you need to learn self control and discipline. You have to discipline yourself to do the things you do now, or you will feel regret later. First off, you need to diagnose your problem and admit it. Think of your life or your activity as an onion. There are different layers and different components. You need to break your task into smaller ones. You have to trick ...

How To: Stop procrastinating by altering your daily routine

This video shows us how to stop procrastinating by altering your normal routine. One way – to start with – is to understand why you procrastinate at all. Some people think that what they do is going to be judged on who they are. Some people think that they have to do everything perfectly. One of the most important things that you can do is make a schedule and then stick to it. Also you can practice the ‘good enough’ principle – realizing that you don't have to do it perfectly and that you are...

How To: Build confidence by being organized & killing clutter

In this Craving Confidence video the instructor Patricia Stark talks about how to gain confidence. When your disorganized you are all over the place. You have trouble focusing on one thing because you see piles of more than one thing all around you. This clutter kills motivation by overwhelming you. Clutter makes you good stuff look bad. You cant see the quality and care for the finer things that you have invested in when they are all crammed in with all that stuff you collected over the year...

How To: Build confidence during pregnancy

For many women, pregnancy is a very vulnerable time, especially when it comes to the health of their child. Your body is changing on a constant basis and it can be hard to find confidence in the fact things will go well. You can learn through this video that you can be proactive in the process of ensuring a healthy pregnancy. Having a diet that is full of healthful foods is key to making sure your pregnancy is on the track to good health. Exercise and reducing stress are also touted as good s...

How To: Build confidence against pickle pusses and poker faces

Craving Confidence with Patricia Stark explains how to build confidence against pickle pusses and poker faces. First, don't judge a book by its cover because when a person is IN DEEP THOUGHT or listening intently, their facial expressions can be misleading. Some people, when they adopt a neutral face, can look downright intimidating. The person maybe be in the middle of a mental exit and be someplace else in their mind. You can bring the person back into the moment by asking them a question o...

How To: Know the steps to becoming a US citizen

To become an American citizen you would first have to fill out an application, then take a naturalization examination. Providing that you have been a legal resident in the U.S. for more than five years, you would then have to appear at a court hearing. You have to be eighteen years old, have good moral character, and be loyal to the United States. You would need to know how to read, write, understand and speak the English language; and have a general knowledge of our country's history, our go...

How To: Stop overspending with feng shui at home

Elizabeth Chamberlain with Space Lift demonstrates how to stop overspending with feng shui at home. Feng shui is a great way to stop overspending and start saving. First, find your focus room by looking at your energy map. Lay your energy map over your home floor plan. The wealth area is in the far left hand corner of your home from the front door facing in. If your bathroom is in your wealth area, stop draining energy. Keep the toilet seat down. Plug any tubs or showers. Also, immediately re...

How To: Build confidence by eliminating negativity

In this video Patricia Stark shows how to boost confidence by eliminating negativity. There are a lot of things that you can do to boost your self confidence. If there is any negative people in your life you have to weed them out. Do not listen to their negativity. Everyone has their share of experiences and negativity is the way these people react to them. You need to have faith in yourself and the higher power. When you go home and practice a religion, no matter what religion, your life wil...

How To: Build confidence by removing deodorant stains

Patricia Stark with Craving Confidence discusses how to build confidence by removing deodorant stains. A clean makeup sponge can help clear deodorant stains off of dark colored materials, like dress shirts or little black dresses. The makeup sponge grips onto the deodorant trail and soaks it up. You can even dampen the makeup sponge if necessary. The rubber consistency of the makeup sponge won't break apart like a paper towel or leave lint like a wash cloth or a towel will. Makeup sponges are...

How To: Make room for love with feng shui at home

Elizabeth Chamberlain, with Space Lift, demonstrates how to make room for love with feng shui at home. First, find your focus room with your energy map by laying the energy map on top of your floor plan. The love area is the far right corner from the front door, facing in. If the love area turns to be an outside area like a patio, clean it up. Remove the cacti and pointy plants to reduce arguments in the relationship. Clear out any unfinished materials and projects. Next, complete the area by...